5 Ways to Stay on a Schedule During the Summer

1) Plan a schedule BEFORE school gets out.

This first one is super important! Before school ever gets out make a schedule. For my oldest daughter it looks a little something like this: -bedtime is 8:00 PM, -get up every morning at 6:45 or later, -make your bed, -eat breakfast, -brush your teeth, -brush your hair, -read a book for 20 minutes, -help someone for 30 minutes, -play for 30 minutes, -free time

You can change it to tailor what your family needs or wants. This is especially important for little ones. Our youngest, who’s 1 year old, would definitely not have the same schedule as our almost 7 years old daughter.

2) Stick to the schedule as consistently as you can.

I’m sure some of you are reading this thinking “You are off your rocker Medical Mama! There’s no way we can stay on a schedule because I work and we are so busy all summer long.” Okay, so I agree with you 50%. What I’m saying is make a schedule, and follow it as closely as you can. If you are on vacation obviously toss this out the window for the duration of the vacation. I understand parents work,  but that is not really an excuse. It’s YOUR excuse. We are always so busy all summer long too. I still manage to keep both my daughters on a consistent schedule. I work in the morning, and throughout most of the afternoon. My husband doesn’t get home until well after dinner time. Our kids stay on schedule. As a parent it is your responsibility to execute this. Not your kids’, and certainly not your basket of excuses.

3) Remind your children that there will be a schedule and it is to help them.

Explain to your children that the schedule is to help them not feel grouchy so you guys can have more fun all summer long.

I keep my kids on a schedule because otherwise nap times get messed up, and kids are super tired and/or cranky. It’s no fun for anyone. This is especially true for our 1 year old daughter. Our oldest is super grouchy the next morning if she had to stay up the night before. It just works well if they stick to a schedule. It also helps to plan my day accordingly and I get to plan things in advance when I know for sure when everyone needs a nap, or when we need to get the kids to bed.

4) Have some leeway and fun!

Like I stated earlier if you are off on a vacation make that a priority. Have fun, and try to make sure your kids are having fun. If there’s something local that will for sure interfere with a nap time, but you know your kids will enjoy it then do it. It’s a “once in a while thing” and not a “I’m a lazy parent and not keeping to a schedule” kind of thing.

5) Don’t overthink it.

Don’t overthink this. It’s common sense. It’s the right thing to do for your children. Remember, you can still have fun and be on a regular schedule.

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Father’s Day 2019: The Dirty Working Man

This is going to be something a little different. This one is dedicated to my one and only…my soul mate. Yes, I’m talking about my husband. Happy Father’s Day sweetheart.

First, I would like to make this known that I am NOT by any means picking on anyone in any working industry. I also am not saying one job is better than another.

Being a working father is hard! Being a stay-at-home mom means my husband makes sacrifices. Does your husband make sacrifices for you to be at home? I tell my husband EVERY DAY how thankful I am, and how blessed I feel to be able to be at home with our children. He misses out on a lot of milestones with our daughters. He missed our oldest daughter’s first words. He has missed a couple school field trips, performances, and meetings. He misses all the hilarious things that come out of her mouth. Every time she has a revelation about something he misses it. He missed our youngest daughter’s first steps. He missed before that when she learned how to crawl. He misses all the funny stuff she does and says. Both our daughters’ mannerisms, laughs, and cries. He misses so much. I know it upsets him. I know he struggles sometimes with me being at home and him having to work so much to make ends meet. I am so grateful for him and how the Lord has blessed us. Words can never begin to express my gratitude for my husband.

It’s Father’s Day 2019. Thank you so much for all your sacrifices Nathan. We love you!

 

The Time I Waste Going Unnoticed

Where are all my SAHM at??? I spend so much of the day doing what seems like nothing, but it takes forever. I feel like I am constantly cleaning bathrooms, picking up laundry, doing the laundry. Yes, I am that weirdo that does the laundry, folds the laundry, and puts it away all in one day. Hahaha. But seriously, I do more than just that. I cook, I read to our toddler, I keep her on schedule. I even keep our 6 (almost 7) year old on schedule in the mornings and evenings as well. I teach online in the morning. I wipe down tables, chairs, do dishes (a couple loads), and we always try to make it outside to do something fun. I vacuum and sweep every day. Somehow, I still find time to workout and keep myself fit so my husband still finds me attractive at the end of the day.

That seems like so much work I do in ONE SINGLE DAY! At the end of each day I pick up everything that my husband and 2 children have left lying around the house when they get home from work or school. I look around the house and feel like I got ABSOLUTELY NOTHING done. Who else feels this way?

240_F_186471930_xJSZgdG9aND154bwxnnMagj2NGIojCHWThe work of a stay-at-home-mom is so much, yet goes so unnoticed. My house looks so lived in, not so much the typical “clean” that everyone thinks of in the movies. You can see where my youngest daughter ate her Cheerios. You can see where my oldest daughter sat at the table when she got home from school and did her homework. You can see where everyone threw their shoes off in the afternoon when everyone got home. You can see where we ate dinner. You can see where that pasta splashed all over the stove because I had to run away from the kitchen quickly to check on the kids. You can see where my husband came in and threw down his coat because he had to quickly go back outside to work on things clients brought in to his shop to be worked on.

modern-living-room-grey-couch-260nw-530248621Now, I’m not complaining. I feel so incredibly blessed that I can stay at home with our children. However, I personally feel like I get nothing done. I feel like what I do do gets unnoticed by everyone in my house. I feel like people think “Well you are an at home mom! What are you doing everyday that your house isn’t sparkling?” To the people who judge my house because we live in it you should worry about your own house. The working moms out there do NOT have sparkling homes, and no one bats an eye. No one says anything about it. The stay-at-home-mom gets so much crap thrown at us because we don’t look or live perfectly to other people’s unrealistic standards.

240_F_219733298_XZpD3fDdSQjZbZWz8k9kx1sL9Boi65kTMy point in all of this is please stop judging other moms. We are not perfect. If there is a mom out there that is portraying herself as “perfect” then she is more miserable than the rest of us. It is all a BIG FAT LIE. Don’t let her be your standard. Let the other working mom struggling with balance in her home and work be your standard. Let the other stay-at-home-mom who’s house is a wreck every evening because of her children be your standard.

Again, thank you for all the love and support!

 

More About My At-Home-Job

Hi everyone! Today I want to share with you, in depth, about my at-home-job!

 

Thank you everyone for all the love and support!

In Honor of National Siblings Day: 5 Ways to Help Your Children Get Along Better

Do you have a sibling? Do you love them (hint: your answer here should be yes)? Maybe you guys talk for hours on the phone daily (guilty). Maybe you guys don’t talk at all (been there too). Maybe you are an only child and enjoy the sole attention of your parents (that’s okay too).

1. First and Foremost, You Should Teach Your Child to Get Along With Others

This includes sharing, being respectful, respecting other people’s space and belongings, etc. I think this first foundation is the key to happiness. Okay, so it’s a nice thought. I realize things are not always going to be perfect around the house. Living with someone day in and day out gets exhausting…and they get annoying (just think of your husband).

However, if we can set those boundaries and that respect early on your children will learn what’s theirs is theirs, and what’s their sister’s is their sister’s. Maybe your child is just annoyed with their sibling and doesn’t want to be in the same room as them. That’s okay too. Everyone needs personal space, and it’s okay to remind them of this. It’s called respect.

2. Help Them Learn to Express Themselves

I am not talking about fighting and yelling to solve a problem. Again, this goes back to the respect thing. Talking about their feelings and how their sibling made them feel is healthy. This should actually be taught VERY early on. They should have already been taught how to express themselves without whining and yelling about it.

3. Don’t Ever Tell Your Child to be More Like One of Their Siblings

Just don’t. This causes tension, resentment, and self-doubt in your children. These just sets your children up for failure with the whole “getting along” thing. Just don’t do it!

4. Spend Time With Each Child Equally

Okay, first I want to say I fall short of this daily. We just had a baby (March 5, 2018), so my time is mostly spent with the baby. My 5 year old is so patient about it though. I make sure when I have my daughter I am also giving my 5 year old enough love too. I make her feel included in what I’m doing with the baby. When my husband gets home from work though he is the one with the baby. Then I can spend the rest of my time with our daughter. I remember she was our sole world. She was the only child. We did things like read stories every night together. I would snuggle in bed with her. We would take random trips out in to town to do fun things. Now I am limited because of the baby. We are just now getting back to that routine.

Try to find something each child likes to do that makes them feel special and do it.

5.Show Each Child Respect by Giving Them Their Own Space

I realize having more than one child means sometimes they’re sharing a room. That is fine. Just make sure in that room each child has their own space to go to. When there’s an argument have each child pick a spot in the house to have as their “space” for temporary personal time.

I hope this was informative for everyone. Please let me know if there is something you do that is super helpful that I did not mention (I know there’s still tons).

Let’s Talk About Gripe Water and Other Over the Counter Tummy Remedies

When my daughter was little she had colic really bad. Her tummy bothered her constantly. I thought I would try gripe water because a friend had suggested it to me. I gave it to her religiously thinking “This time it’s going to help”. In all honesty, it never helped.

I know moms who swear by it. I know other moms who get frustrated because it does not work and they use it over and over.

Today let’s talk about if there’s actually any scientific proof if it actually is meant to help and why.

I did some research and there are a couple different brands of gripe water you can buy. There’s Mommy’s Bliss, and Colic Calm. I’m sure there’s more on the market, but I wanted to focus on two and compare and contrast them for research purposes.

Mommy’s Bliss Gripe Water

When I got on the mommy’s bliss website it had a lot of information as to why I should be a consumer for their brand. They never really focused on the science of ingredients or how it physiologically worked with baby’s tummy to relieve these symptoms.

ginger rootIt does say it contains ginger, fennel, and sodium bicarbonate (Mommy’s Bliss., Unknown). These are age old remedies for helping tummy aches. According to  The Editors Of Publications International, LTD “Ginger’s root contains chemicals called gingerols and shogaols. When using ginger to treat upset stomach, these chemicals relax the intestinal tract, preventing motion sickness and relieving the nausea, vomiting, colicky stomach cramps, and diarrhea that often accompany stomach flu (The Editors of Publications International LTD., (Unknown).

Colic Calm Gripe Water

The Colic Calm gripe water has different ingredients than that of the Mommy’s Bliss gripe water. Colic Calm contains peppermint, fennel, lemon balm, chamomile, caraway, vegetable carbon, and ginger. Again, ginger. These other ingredients are also known to act the same way in the body physiologically.

Does Gripe Water Really Work?

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So bottom line: Does gripe water really work? To be quite honest there is absolutely NO research confirming nor denying that gripe water actually works. I did not have any luck with my first baby. Thankfully, we have not “needed” gripe water with our second. Do I think it works? No. I don’t. Do I think it could help calm an upset tummy? Yes. I do not believe it helps with passing gas, bowel movements, or anything to induce bowel changes.

Do you have a story about gripe water? I would love to hear your experience with it!

 

Resources:

Mommy’s Bliss. (Unknown). Frequently Asked Questions. Retrieved from https://mommysbliss.com/frequently-asked-questions/

The Editors of Publications Internal LTD. (Unknown). Using Ginger to Treat Upset Stomach. Retrieved from https://health.howstuffworks.com/wellness/natural-medicine/herbal-remedies/using-ginger-to-treat-upset-stomach.htm

 

That Time I Was Mom Shamed for Being an at Home Mom

A while back there were some not nice comments being left on my blogs about at home parents and working moms. First, I love the working mom and what she stands for. I also love the at home mom and what she stands for. Whatever you decide is your business, and is the right decision for you and your family. Don’t let anyone else tell you differently!

Anyway, I have told by some of my readers that I was setting a bad example to my children by not working. I was showing them working is not important. I have been told I was showing my daughters how stereotypical it was for moms to be at home and that they would never amount to anything so long as I was not working. I have been told that I am hating on the working moms by asking parents to spend time off with their children. I have been told that I am a bad mother for being at home so I can be there for my children 100% of the time. I should be teaching my children “disappointment”.

Anyone else angered by this? Anyone else see how ridiculous and hateful these comments are?

I have to say I have been fuming over this for several months. You can read more about this in my article “Mom Shaming/Bashing: Why Are We Doing This?” I am writing about it today to help myself build a thicker skin from this. I also want to clarify to my readers that they will NOT break me down. I will not apologize for my family’s and I’s decision for me to be there for my children 100% of the time. I want my children to know they can always rely on me no matter what!